Me: You feeling okay, Ducky?
Ducky: Sure. Just tired.
Me: No more than usual?
Ducky: No. Why?
Me: I just worry about you. Want to make sure you’re okay. Don’t want to assume.
Ducky: Did something happen?
Me: Do you remember me telling you about Daisy?
Ducky: The doggie that lives with Grandma and Grandpa?
Me: Yeah. Well, I just found out that she passed away.
Ducky: That makes me sad.
Me: Me too.
Ducky: Didn’t you tell me that Grandma and Grandpa saved Daisy?
Me: Yeah. Daisy was living with some people who weren’t treating her well. Hurting her. And when there was an opportunity to get her out of that situation, they did.
Ducky: Is that what all humans would do?
Me: No. Not all.
Ducky: Lucky for Daisy that your parents were around.
Ducky: And were in the market for a doggie!
Me: Ha. No. No, I don’t think they particularly wanted a doggie at all at that point.
Ducky: But they still did it?
Ducky: How long ago was that?
Me: I really don’t remember. A lot of years.
Ducky: Did they treat her better?
Me: They treated her wonderfully. They loved her very much.
Ducky: I’m glad they found her. And gave her a lot of good years.
Me: Me too.
Ducky: A lot of doggies don’t ever get that.
Me: No. No they don’t.
Ducky: But it’s still okay that you’re sad.
Me: I know.
Ducky: I’m glad you found me.
Me: I’m glad we found each other.
Ducky: Walks keep me healthy.
Me: Yes they do.
Ducky: Want to go for a walk and you can tell me more about Daisy? And maybe we can talk about Foley too?
Me: That sounds like a very good idea.
Ducky: I love you, Daddy.
Me: I love you very much, Ducky.
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The kind reviews keep piling up at Amazon!
"I have been following Ag and Ducky on Tumblr for a couple of years, and eagerly anticipated the release of this book. It is everything I expected it to be, and more."
"This is an enjoyable read, with generous helpings of humor, sadness and insight into the human condition, all neatly packaged in a series of exchanges between the author and his human…..or, rather, the author and his dog…..well, I guess that’s the point. Anthony Giffen created a wonderfully believable series of conversations between himself and his dog that gives us a poignant glimpse into their lives that is both engaging and entertaining. It’s well worth your time."
"Anthony Giffen has graciously offered his tough, difficult story in an easy to digest, delightfully funny look at how his very special special Dog, Ducky, quite literally saved his life. It is one of the most heartwarming, and relatable stories I’ve read in a long time.”
"This is a wonderful little book, heartwarming and charming. The adventures of a man and his dog, Ducky, as they tackle life’s problems at a time when life seems rife with them. Ducky and Anthony may help you see your own problems in a new light, with lots of laughs along the way, and may inspire you to find the Ducky in your own life, which may or may not be a dog, or even an animal. We all need a little Ducky from time to time."
"Thoughtful, funny, and at times incredibly poignant. We all talk to our pets. Sometimes, when we really need them, they talk back to us."
Thanks to everyone who has downloaded the Kindle edition and everyone who has bought the paperback. The Kindle version remains free through Wednesday, December 4th and Amazon has put the paperback on a very nice sale with plenty of time to still get it delivered in time for Christmas.
Thanks to everyone who has posted a review and everyone who has spread the word. Over 1000 people have our book in their possession right now and it is thanks to you!
Love you all!
Ag & Ducky
GPOY-Embrace The Widow’s Peak Edition!
I know this will change no one’s mind, but I know seeing posts that challenged my preconceptions about how the world works eventually help me to expand my understanding of complex issues. So, here’s hoping this may start to do the same for some other people on tumblr who I follow, who I sincerely like and respect, but who have enormous blind spots in their world views.
But more likely it will give people who won’t even read the article the opportunity to reflexively reply “Women can’t be sexist because sexism requires power!” and feel very enlightened. Oh, and add a gif of James Van Der Beek crying with the caption “Poor, poor baby men!”
Meh. Either way. As long as it gets notes. :-)
When you compliment a random woman who doesn’t know you, no matter how nice you are about it, there’s a good chance she’s going to freak out internally because for all she knows, you could be that latter type. And I get that it’s really unfair that women would just assume that about you. I get that it sucks that sometimes, expressing totally reasonable opinions like “hey you’re hot” will make women terrified of you or furious at you. That’s not fair.
But if you’re going to lay the blame for that somewhere, for fuck’s sake, don’t blame the woman. Blame all the guys who have called her a bitch and a cunt for ignoring their advances. Blame all the guys who may have harassed, abused, or assaulted her in the past. Blame all the people who may never do such a thing themselves, but who were quick to blame her and tell her to just get over it. Blame the fact that if she stops and talks to you and then something bad happens, people will blame her for stopping and talking to you.
I posted this as an example of how to frame these issues in a way that doesn’t automatically force men into defensive postures and actually might help some people understand more fully why things are the way they are. The phrasing of “blame all the men WHO” is so much more effective than “Blame men.”
I am a man. I get defensive when you blame a group I am part of. But “blame the men WHO harass?” Oh, sure! I’ll blame them! I have no need to defend that! I’m not one of them! You’re right! I’m with you against those guys!”
Of course, we should only communicate like this if we want to, you know, improve our society.
Or we could keep making combative statements filled with sweeping offensive generalities and mocking individuals solely because they are men, or women, or feminist, or conservative…because it makes us feel superior.
Because that seems to be changing a whole lot of hearts and minds, right?
Seriously. I’m about to unfollow some people who I agree with on almost every conceivable issue solely because I can’t take their dismissiveness towards anyone not like them.
(Gratuitous Picture Of Yourself When You Went To Pick Blueberries Even Though There Is No Visible Evidence Of Anything In Any Way Related To Blueberry Picking In The Picture)
Gratuitous Picture Of Yourself (Right) Wednesday
I heard two interviews with MMA star Ronda Rousey today. It’s great that we now have a a role model that we can hold up as an example to every little girl that says, “Yes, you too can make life choices that for years we thought only thought men were stupid enough to make.”
"What do you want to do when you grow up, Sally?"
"I want to get punched in the face repeatedly, suffer permanent brain damage, be an invalid for the majority of my life, and have my money stolen from me by unscrupulous promoters all for the entertainment of a fickle, bloodthirsty audience that will forget about me as soon as I stop regularly risking my life for their enjoyment."
"And if that doesn’t work out?"
"Probably be a vet. I like horsies."
Just think of all those little girls in Rome who never had the opportunity to be eaten by a lion.
Smile Friday: It Was A Good Birthday Edition